Dan and Jennifer from thir blog AskDanAndJennifer.com are speaking about such an interesting question in modern relationships as affair, cheating, open marriage and even swinging.

Here is a letter from one lady from Scotland and the following video-answer.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I have looked at a number of your letters but have found it quite difficult to find a corresponding answer to my question:

What if your husband finds it emotionally impossible (because of work stress and being very overweight) (and physically impossible for a number of medical reasons such as sleep apnea) to have sex but I so desperately want sex?

And now when he says I should find someone else for a sexual relationship (just as long as I don’t tell him!)? We have been married for thirty years and have three children (now grown-up).

I am now very attracted to a colleague at my work and he is to me but feel torn yet desperately need a physical connection…. I have not had sex with my husband for approx 12 years and it is driving me crazy, crazy enough to consider an affair but my religion and upbringing are such deterrents. I feel I cannot leave my husband yet I also feel he has given me “permission” to have an affair, oh dear I don’t know what the right way forward is I do hope you can help. I am very confused.

– A. (Argyll, Scotland, UK)


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